Healing

My Biggest Fear as a Single Mom

My biggest fear is sending Savvi to public school. We’ve been learning at home but she really wants to go to school and it TERRIFIES me. That’s not normal nor is it okay.

Arrests in School Are Not Okay

I was considering it then I saw a 6 year old LITTLE GIRL get ARRESTED for having a tantrum, something that Savvi does. I’m not even going to link to the article, there is NO POINT in sharing media that will further cause trauma.

The fact that adults, who are teachers are not equipped to handle a child’s temper is questionable. The fact that law enforcement had to get involved disgusts me. Who calls the police on a child? What about a hug or talking to her?

There were 1,000 things that could have been done, none of them should involve the police…NONE.
Jovhannah, The Spiritual Love Healer

I could not get that story out of my mind. Now that it’s time to register for school, I’ll be establishing a homeschool instead.

There was a huge uproar over books that spoke of “happy slaves” essentially erasing history and rewriting further adding to the problem we have of racial injustice and ignorance.

Standing Firm in My Beliefs

I can’t ignore it! It’s infuriating.

Being a single mother I can not afford to place my child in any institution that doesn’t have her complete wellbeing in mind.

The world we live in doesn’t cater to my family’s needs and until it does I plan on creating or finding alternatives that do.

I used to doubt my decision, especially when my family pressures me asking when will she start school but I have been standing firmly in my decision NOT to go the public school route for Savvi.

Creating Systems for Support

Change is needed at much deeper levels. I don’t feel that the system can be fixed, I feel at this point we need to create systems, communities and organizations that truly support our holistic wellbeing.

Deep Healing is Needed

By The Spiritual Love Healer

How Will I Use My Voice, My Platform, My Gifts to UPLIFT my Community? I was asked this question as part of a dynamic group of creative Women of Color.

As I’ve watched events unfold and reflected on my own journey and experience, I want to help heal, rebuild, and inspire the Black Family and the Black Community.

Start at Home

I’m starting at home, evaluating how I parent, how I teach and how I heal, rebuild, and inspire at home.

I have been in this beautiful skin my entire life. I have seen the joys that Blackness brings and also have witnessed the horror.

As a healer I am well aware that trauma can live on in our DNA. Things like enslavement, abandonment, fear, rejection, brutality, assault, and being violated.

Healing Trauma

In order for me to uplift my community, the children, women and men. I am recognizing that I have some deep healing to do, so that I can hold space to help families heal.

My goal has always been to illuminate, nature, and inspire Spiritual Love in the hearts and minds of women, children and men, while I am working with single mothers at this time, I do know there is a place unfolding for the Spiritual Love Sanctuary to be a family spiritual wellness center.

There is deep healing work needed, for Black Men, Children, and Women. Watching ancestors let go of legacy in lieu of a quick win, I know there is a knowledge gap when it comes to financial literacy. I am here to unfold healing and love on a deep level, but first I need to heal and hold space for myself.

Let’s Change the World Together

I was able to busy myself with Healing Single Mothers while watching everything unfold. Black Lives Matters, protests, rioting, all sparked by racial injustice that is steeped so deeply in this country. It also gave me time to reflect on the experiences I’ve had where my Blackness was a problem for others and I was taken advantage of or mistreated because of it.

What I see is a people that need deep healing. I cannot heal if you aren’t willing to do the work. Because I need healing, you need healing. We are all one. I understand your pain. I know your anger. I feel your hurt. I love you. Let’s heal to gather. Let’s build together, Let’s win and change the world together.

My name is Jovhannah K. Tisdale I am a Mother, an American and I am here to heal my people.

Why Healing Single Mothers?

By The Spiritual Love Healer

For the last few years, I have been in the spiritual coaching and healing industry. I knew that I had a calling to help people very early on in life. Recently my work has been centered around single mothers.

In this video I share my story, and why I created Healing Single Mothers.

Transcript

Greetings peace and blessings to you.

My name is Jovhannah. I’m also known as The Spiritual Love Healer. I am the founder of Healing Single Mothers and creator of the Empowered Single Mothers Community, which I’ll be talking more about later, but I just wanted to say hello because I’ve gotten lots of new followers, new friends.

So I just wanted to share a little bit more about myself so that you know who I am and why I am doing the work that I’m doing. Healing Single Mothers was actually birthed out of something that I saw online, where people were like being really rude and disrespectful towards single mothers in general. And I was like, that’s so not fair.

We have unique circumstances. Sometimes we don’t have the support, whether it’s financial, emotional, mental, whatever, to do all the things that maybe we would like to do.

I want to level out the playing field and help single moms get the tools they need so that you can live abundantly ever after so that you can create the life that you desire.

So that you can also attract the love that you deserve, because I know that’s a big part of it. No one truly wants to be single. And I believe that there’s someone for everybody.

Before I was just doing work with women, women who had been in toxic relationships, I’ve worked with women who were dealing with challenges around self love, have worked with women around their mindset, and nothing really seemed to fit until I was like, you know what? I’m going to focus on single moms.

Healing Single Mothers actually started as a Facebook group where I was just like, this is going to be this space and we’re going to be here and do these things.

And it’s grown into so much more so to become a brand and extension of my business.

I am a single mother myself. I have two girls, my oldest is 17 and she will be going to Howard University this year. I’m super, super proud of Kaylah. My little baby Savvi who is five, not quite a little baby, but she’s still my little baby.

I have two girls and I don’t want to see them, you know, go through the struggles that I went through as a single mother. And I really want to be able to equip them with the tools that they need to live abundantly, to have a good life, to reach their goals and achieve their dreams.

Not only is this group created out of a need, but it’s also my passion to really heal families and communities.

I believe that when we start with mama or the women and the community, that’s where we can affect the greatest change. Because as a women, we are the pillars of our families, we are the pillars of our communities. And if we are struggling or feeling weak, that energy is dispersed out into our home, into our family and to our community and to our relationships and the people that we connect with.

When we are able to regain our strength to reclaim our power, to stand in our worth and to create without limits, and build, the life that we live can truly, truly change.

I did not start out here. In fact, I became a single mom at 20 and it was amazing. I was super excited to be a mom.

I just, I had everything planned out and so prepared. Like I was going to be the greatest mom ever. And unfortunately I was robbed of that opportunity and found myself in an abusive relationship.

I was a new mom not knowing what to do because there was so much shame, not a lot of support, and a lot of judgment. I felt very alone and isolated. I didn’t feel like I could turn to anyone because it was kinda like, ‘well, you had a baby, so you’re grown now, figure it out‘.

I thought I had to figure everything out and that relationship robbed me of, of so much. And I think part of the reason why I was so afraid to like dive in to the work that I do is because I know telling my story meant telling a part of my daughter’s story, and I didn’t want her to grow up, hearing the things, right.

I want it to allow her to live as normally as possible within our particular dynamic. And I feel that now that she is older and you know, we’ve talked about these things as well. I just feel like now I have the freedom to truly share and to truly allow a deeper level of healing to take place in my own journey.

And so that’s where I felt like, you know what? I have so much to give, to share, to teach, to show that I really, really wanted to work with other single mothers who have been through things because I was what, like 20, I think about 23 when everything fell apart.

I left, I was dealing with child custody issues going back and forth to court. Having just a horrible period of time. I was also battling, dealing with the side effects of abuse, which included major depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder.

And I just was so alone and it felt like my entire world was like crumbling apart. I thought I was going crazy and did not know what to do. There was a lot of gaslighting, lots of emotional abuse and manipulation that continued on. And so it was very challenging.

And I really did not think there was an end to it. In fact, I felt like I just didn’t need to be here anymore. Like it was, it was that bad. It was a very dark period in my life.

But also that dark period is what ignited my life’s purpose, what ignited my healing journey and what led me to be here, where I am today. And so a lot of the things that I do in my own business and in my own life are different healing tools or practices that I learned that really helped me to shift my mindset.

So I believe it started with yoga and meditation and aromatherapy. Those were the three things that were so key to like me figuring out this Rubik cube mess of life that I was living. And so Peggy, I will never forget her. I love her. I love her. I love her. She was my very first yoga instructor. She was an older white woman. And I was looking online. Like I gotta find somebody to teach me yoga.

Cause I read up I was looking for natural healing methods to overcome depression because I didn’t feel like the doctors that I was working with were trying to help me. They were just like, Oh, well, you’re going to have to take a pill for the rest of your life. And I was like, no, that, that doesn’t make sense. I’m like, why aren’t we working on fixing the issue instead of just trying to, you know, slap a bandaid on it and cover up the symptoms.

So yoga and meditation were a couple of the things that I saw, along with using essential oils that were helpful for shifting your mood dealing with depression and anxiety. So I looked and I researched a whole bunch of different yoga teachers. And what I liked about Peggy was her website was so different. It was not like, you know, this yoga studio center with a clear minimalist background. It was like a purple background. I think she had like some music playing and there was such a beautiful and inviting energy that I was like, I’m going to her.

I remember trying to find it and it was somewhere like off in the cut on the other side of town. But I look forward to that trip. Every week I started doing private sessions with her and then, you know, I moved into like a group class and it was just everything.

I think about it as I started doing yoga when it was not cool when it was a white thing to do so this journey that I was on, I lost a lot of friends because they didn’t understand what I was doing. Everybody just thought I was crazy and stupid. I had cut my hair off for the first time. Cause I’ve cut it several times even thinking about cutting it off again. But and then everyone was just like, I was crazy because I’ve cut my hair.

I’m doing all these weird things. I’m hugging, hugging crystals and I’m meditating and doing yoga. So like spirituality was not acceptable and it was not cool. And I was just crazy. And so I was just like, you know what, I need to get out of this environment. So I moved I wound up moving a few hours away to this small little town and that is where I continued my practices.

That’s where I really dive deeper into working with tarot, crystals, candles, all of this, all of, all of the things journaling is also very important if you saw my room now that are like just journals and notebooks everywhere because writing to me is so therapeutic.

And so these are just some of the things that have helped me on my journey that I now teach and use others to work through their own pain. And so during the course of all of this, like I that’s when like the economy was like, and so every, like I was kept getting laid off from jobs, I was dealing with the financial burden of not having a steady stream of income.

My family was not very supportive. I felt very alone and just struggling and at the very bottom of the barrel and I’m sharing this because I was a hot mess.

I was living in a deep pain. I was struggling by myself, which is a very dangerous thing for someone with a true, or any mental or emotional disorder. If you don’t have support that can lead to even more mental illness including depression, leading to suicide.

I’m a very big advocate when it comes to mental health, when it comes to therapy, when it comes to holistic healing and just taking care of you, self-love all of those different things. And if you feel that you are at your lowest point in life, I’m here to tell you that you can definitely bounce back from it because I have, and like, I, I just really thought my life was over at 20. Well, but I would say maybe 25 around 25.

That’s when I was like, Oh my God, life is not worth living. This is terrible. Like, my life is over. It’s ruined, what am I going to do with myself? What, you know, how can life get better from here, but it does it, it can, does and will get better.

So that is just a little piece of my story. I’m going to be sharing more about the Empowered Single Mothers Community, which is where I’m going to be spending most of my time, creating content, resources, trainings, leading coaching sessions, healing sessions, and so much more to really give you the support that you need.

All at an amazing price that makes it totally worthwhile. So I’m very excited about that coming soon. And I hope that you’ll join me there. I do have a free membership available, so you can head over to healingsinglemothers.com/free to get free access to the growing resource library.

There are several things in there now, and I’ll be adding more things to it. So come on, check it out and I’ll be sharing more of my story as well.

So peace and blessings to you until next time.

SLP000: Start Seeing Love Differently

By The Spiritual Love Healer

I am super excited to bring you the first of many episodes from the Spiritual Love Podcast. Tune into the Frequency of Love and learn why it’s time to start changing how you view love. You’ll also learn a little about me and what you can expect from the podcast.

Transcript

Jovhannah: Hello and welcome to the very first episode of the spiritual love podcast. I am your host Jovhannah, the Spiritual Love Healer and founder of the Spiritual Love Sanctuary. I created this podcast as a space for us to explore love, relationships, dating matters of the heart, and even life in a real way and in a spiritual way to really bring about healing and growth so that we can all experience the true essence of love. You’ll often hear me refer to love as spiritual love, and that’s because what we commonly think of as love has become tainted. A lot of us have been in toxic and unhealthy relationships. We’ve had maybe traumatic upbringing. So when we think about family, when we think about relationships, it’s not always a pretty picture. And I really want to kind of rehab love in a way that we’re thinking about it as the divine, as God truly intended it to be, which is, it’s a beautiful energy that is pure and it is loving and it recognizes the divine within all of us and the inclusiveness of love.

Jovhannah: So many of us have experienced love that is conditional like that. You know, if you don’t do this or if you do that or you need to be like this and then I’ll love you. And that’s not love. Love is unconditional. And so I really want to create some conversations around this as well as talk about ways to overcome some of the hurts and the challenges that we have experienced in relationships in life. So it’s going to be a mix here on the spiritual love podcasts. We’re going to have spiritual conversations about love life and everything in between. But I want it to be a place where we can get real so that we can focus on inner peace, healing, wellness, and so much more. So again, let’s dive a little bit deeper into what spiritual love is. So as I talked about before, there is a definite reason why I put spiritual in front of the word love and even in the title that I call myself, and we’ll talk about that later.

Jovhannah: But that’s really because like I did not want it to be confused and I really wanted to make a statement and a change in how we perceive, love, how we relate to ourselves and each other. A lot of times when we talk about relationships and we talk about love, we think of it as being this external thing that’s between us and someone else. And we forget that there’s ourselves. We forget that there’s our family members, our friends, the people we, you know, are connected to through our profession, our work. And you know, love has also gotten a really bad rep when we think about it. We hear, you know, pain is love. Love hurts, love is blind and all of these things. So there’s a lot of fear and negative energy around the word love and that is a big problem. So I didn’t want to just say love.

Jovhannah: Because also, you know, I have been in an abusive relationship and you know, once I got out of that and I started thinking and reflecting like what do I want in a relationship going forward, what, you know, what do I want to call into my life? Being in an abusive relationship with someone who said they love me, I want it to be very clear. Like, if that was love, then that’s not the type of love I want. I was like, you know, I want a divine love. I want something that’s deep and meaningful and comes from a place of peace and protection. Not negative, you know, not filled with negativity or drama or deceit because that has kind of become the norm in a way. So, because there’s this big stain on love and how we relate to ourselves as well as each other.

Jovhannah: That’s why I said I want a spiritual love. I don’t want what I’ve experienced in the past as love. And so when we take love to this wider scope of, you know, being spiritual being much more than what we see, like on the surface level, it opens the door for so much more. And I really want people to understand that love does not hurt. It’s beautiful, it’s deep and meaningful and that it energy and it does not always come from someone else. We think that love is something that we have to give or that someone has to give to us. And that’s not the case. So we’re definitely going to talk more about that and I get it because it does feel good when we have a connection with another person. But ultimately love is already planted within you when you were created. So, you know, I just wanted to highlight what love is and really restore it back to its sacred nature so that it can, we can start to see it from a place of healing and understanding versus the negativity.

Jovhannah: So spiritual love is really all about reclaiming the true intended purpose for love and really recognizing that you know, the divine or God is with is within yourself as well as being within others. And it’s also about, you know, recognizing that we are essentially spiritual beings all created in the image of God right here in the flesh. So when we start to treat ourselves differently with this awareness that I am loved, this awareness that you know, I am divinity, we start to treat others differently and in return we get treated differently. So spiritual love is also about going deeper with love and realizing that it’s not just surface level within a relationship. It’s also really getting to the matter of the heart, getting to truly know and understand someone. And it also recognizes that love is limitless. It’s inclusive and unconditional. And I talked about this a bit earlier.

Jovhannah: We say that we love people, but we have so many conditions. I love you. But that’s, that’s a condition that’s a limit. So anything after I love you but is conditional, that is not love. And being that it’s inclusive, it includes every being on this earth, everything. Everyone is a worthy and deserving of loving. So I really want it to encompass that. It’s not, you know, I’ll only love you if you can do this or I love you, but you need to change. It truly recognizes and accepts the divine in each of us. And that’s what’s really beautiful. So to me, love is spiritual. Love is energy. It is divine, it’s sacred, it’s soulful, it’s all encompassing. And you know, I see a lot of times where it’s like, love has become fleeting. It’s like, Oh, I love you today and tomorrow. I don’t love you.

Jovhannah: And it’s just like, it’s like temporary painful back and forth, embarrassing situation. And that’s not what truly love is. So the work that I do here, this podcast and how I’m here to serve is to really restore love to its intended purpose. And so as we segue into me, I’m going to share a little bit about who I am, what the spiritual of healer is. So about me. Again, I’m Jovhannah Tisdale, currently residing in Raleigh, North Carolina. I’m also known as the spiritual love healer, just a down to earth, down to earth woman who has experienced a lot of pain and trauma. And I transformed that into what I do now and who I’ve become. I was able to transmute that pain and rebuild my life and find purpose in all that I have had experienced. I’ve been in an abusive relationship.

Jovhannah: I, you know, dealt with depression and anxiety. And so that journey, my own personal journeys of dealing with all of that including sexual trauma, having issues with, you know, confidence and self esteem, it started me on a journey to really heal myself and transform my life and relationships. And that led me to a lot of the tools that I use in my personal life, in business for healing. And I was able to rebuild my life inside out from the ground up and really releasing all of that pain and rebirthing myself essentially into a happy, healthy, whole loving woman that I am today. And you know, I’ve, I’ve been through a lot and so, you know, I’ll share a lot of those experiences here with you because you know, a lot of times people feel like when you’re in this position or you know, you’re a healer or a coach or you know, something of that you know that you’re perfect and that you, you know, your life is on this whole other level.

Jovhannah: And really like, I still experience struggles. I just navigate them differently and I don’t ever want to come across as though like I’m speaking down from the top of a mountain because I am in it with you living and experiencing life. Just because I have been on a spiritual journey and live my life differently does not mean that I am exempt from challenges. And so I want you to know that I am there with you. I am, you know, sharing what I know as I continue to grow and develop because I truly want to help others. So if I can reach back and save you from experiencing the things that I’ve experienced or help guide you through it, then that is what I’ll do. Because a lot of times what happens is I see women who are much older than myself and I mean these are women who are in their sixties and seventies who are still living a life from a place of hurt, not knowing how to love themselves and holding onto a lot of pain and trauma because we didn’t necessarily have these tools available in their generation or they weren’t widely known and accepted or it was considered witchcraft.

Jovhannah: And you were crazy if you were doing these things. And you know, over the past 14 plus years, I immersed myself in studying spirituality, religion personal growth, aroma therapy, meditation, divination, coaching, wellness, finance, and a variety of healing methods. And I’ve gained so many skills and have overcome challenges that are really key to who I am and my way of giving back is really sharing with you and helping others to process trauma and really just helping people to heal their heart and truly love their life. And another thing that I wanted to mention, like it’s not, when I talk about spiritual love, it’s not just about finding love. I know that’s the goal for a lot of people and I totally understand it, but it’s also, you know, about being love and really guiding you to heal. You know, your heart and your minds that you can experience inner peace and wholeness and love within yourself because that then radiates out into your relationships.

Jovhannah: So once we get into a place where we know who we are, we’ve healed and release the pain. You turn into a magnet for love and blessings. But as long as we’re in a wounded space and we feel like we don’t deserve, we stay in a space where we’re kind of not necessarily blocking our blessings, but we’re not open to receiving them. And so my passion and purpose is really to help women. And even as I am creating this, it’s also extending out into working with men and children to really help them heal their hearts and their minds so that they can live, you know, a life of love. So I am a certified, a Reiki master and a variety of forms of Reiki, including crystal Reiki, Money Reiki, and Aset Ka, which is a form of Kemetic Reiki. I’m a master life coach, a crystal therapist, mindfulness practitioner, angelic healing practitioner, aroma therapist, a certified angel card readers, psychic tarot coach, EFT practitioner.

Jovhannah: And then some. I love learning. I am a lifelong learner and I’m always studying and expanding my knowledge because that just, not only do I love it, but it allows me to really serve the people that I work with. And so when I talk about the spiritual love healer, it’s not just a title, you know, a fancy, cute title that I made up. For me, it’s an affirmation. It’s a declaration, it’s a statement. It is a mission and it gives me purpose. And it helps guide me in what I do on a daily basis. So my goal for you today with this information is for us to connect. And also I really want you to start looking at love in a different light. So I want you to think about your relationships overall your family, your friendships, how you feel about yourself, your romantic relationships, and really think about the love in those situations. Like are they loving, have you been loving

Jovhannah: And you know, have they been balanced where the flow, the exchange of love has, has been balanced, you were able to give and receive or do you find that they’ve been imbalanced or your relationships straining? And if I also want you to reflect on yourself and what you think about love, do you feel that love is already within you? Do you feel that it’s something that someone else has to give you? Was it something that you didn’t receive as a child? Like really start to think about the love in your life and pay attention to your patterns and your mindset. When you think about loving relationship often, you know, we, I’m sure you’ve heard like our relationships are a reflection of us. Everyone is a mirror and it can be a hard pill to swallow. And in fact, being in an abusive relationship, one of the biggest things that I had to admit and forgive myself for was taking part in the situation.

Jovhannah: And I know that it can be a challenge for other people to hear that, but this is my truth. And because I was in that relationship because of things that maybe I did or did not do on some level, I allowed myself to be abused. I was not loving myself enough to know that I didn’t deserve this. Like I could’ve walked away at the first sign of of aggression, of issue within the relationship. But I chose to stay. And so one of the biggest pills that I had to swallow is that that was a mirror to me. And that’s what I felt that I deserved at that time. And that was truly, truly painful. But it was when I realized that that’s when I started to take my power back. That’s when I started to say, Oh no, like I deserve better. I did not deserve that. And now that I know better, I can navigate life differently. I know the areas where I was the weak mentally and emotionally and now I can start to, to work on those things and really really start to overcome those challenges so that I don’t put myself back into a situation with someone who will be unkind and unloving through me. And so it’s very important for me to hold space for others to heal and really help guide them. And creating the spiritual love podcast is just another way that I am able to do that.

Speaker 2: So I want to talk about some of the different things that you’re going to see on the show. So I’m going to be on here just having conversations like we’re doing today. I’m also going to have guests come on the show. We’re going to have segments where you can call in and ask questions. I’ll be doing some divination card readings and things like that on the show. And I’m just super excited and blessed because S instead of this being just a traditional podcast, it’s going to be just like this creative mash of experiences brought to you through audio format. So I’m really excited and once I have everything set up for you to call in and ask your questions and we can talk live and it’s just going to be amazing and I’m super excited and cannot wait to really get the ball rolling and start sharing with you

Jovhannah: From my heart because this is what I truly love. And so funny because I remember being a little girl and watching the Ricki Lake show and of course Oprah. And I was like, I want my own talk show. I’m going to have my own talk show. And this is just one format of that. But I definitely see it on a grand scale where yes, I will have a talk show. So hold that space for me to manifest my greatness and I will be holding space for you to manifest your greatness. So

Jovhannah: Because I love working with mine. My Oracle decks and tarot decks, I pulled two cards. Well actually I pulled one card for the podcast. I wanted to see what the energy of the podcast was. And the card that came up was Wolframite. These are crystal cards that I pulled and it represents confidence, goals, amplification, wishes and boldness, which absolutely resonates with what I want to do with this podcast. I peeked at the another card and the card that showed up was Rose Quartz. And this is all crystal about love. Like Rose quartz is known as like the love crystal. And it also helps to encourage appreciation and connection. And so some other words attached to that are innocent staging, intuition and knowing. And this to me is a sign that this is needed, that I am on the right path.

Jovhannah: And that definitely my intentions will be manifested through this podcast. So as you’re listening to this, not only will that energy radiate out to you, it’s going to help you to rise above whatever you’re experiencing in your life with confidence and help you to expand into and to amplify your goals, your desires, and your thoughts. This is going to be a place where we amplify love, where we build our confidence, where we manifest our wishes, and we move out into the world boldly and courageously with love. So I am inviting you on this spiritual love journey through this podcast where we’re going to have conversations about love, about life, and everything in between. So go ahead, send me your questions. I cannot wait to hear from you. I can’t wait to have you on the show. And let’s keep the conversation going. Until next time. Peace.

Align with the Frequency of Love

By The Spiritual Love Healer

I have been learning so much about love, most importantly Spiritual Love. Love is energy and has its own resonance or frequency. In working with clients, exploring my own relationships and living this work I’ve come to realize that we are not in tune to the energy of love. That goes for most of us. Love is not our default and that is a problem.

If we are not attuned to the frequency of love, chances are we are aligned with fear, hatred, lack, and limits and this shows up in your life and relationships. How do I know because I’ve experienced it too.

Living in Fear, Not Love

I lived in a place of fear for a long time, after being in an abusive relationship. This doesn’t always show up clearly. It can show up as overextending yourself, addictions to food, sex, video games, drugs, shopping, eating, working out. The list goes on and on. You might find yourself unable and uninterested in investing in meaningful relationships. You might attract relationships that don’t serve you. People only looking to use you without reciprocating. Hurt will be a common theme because the love is not flowing in your life.

It took me way too long to figure out that I was not living and that the walls I set up to protect me were actually harming me and pulling the wrong energy into my life. The more I identified as a victim, the more I allowed the pain of what I experienced to live in my heart the further I got away from love.

Transform Pain into Love

I had a “come to Jesus moment” that opened my eyes and lead me to the transformation where I emerged healed, changed, and open. The things that I learned are what I now guide others through. It was in realizing that my life, my pain, and my story was my power. There was a message and a lesson in all of it.

What I learned is that if you are not aligned with the energy of love, you will miss out on the beauty of life and all that it has to offer. If you are not aligned with the energy of love you will experience challenges with love, relationships, and life in general. It is easy to think that you are loving, but believe me, being truly aligned with the energy of love is work.

Aligning with Spiritual Love

I am being called to align myself more and more and to step fully into my heart-space and it is a challenge. My personal work is to integrate Spiritual Love into all areas of my life, and to do that I have to be in a supportive space and be completely aware of myself at all times. I am grateful that I have amazing teachers and accountability partners to help me as I walk this path and I want to share this walk with you.

When you align yourself to the energy of love you are able to forgive, you have compassion for yourself and others, you give and receive love freely without fear paralyzing you. Judgment is no longer an issue because you are able to see the connection in all and again express compassion towards others. Aligning with the energy of love for me is deeper than just manifesting love, but that is indeed a beautiful benefit.

Releasing Fear

Releasing fear and opening your heart allows love to come in. The more you are aligned with the pure energy of love, free from guilt, shame, pain and fear you radiate and attract others to your light. This is not to say that you won’t have fear or negative emotions, you are human and that is what we experience but those things will not stop you. You can witness these emotions and meet them with love, still moving forward.

It is possible for you to align with the energy of love if you are single or if you are in a relationship. Some ways that you can do that are by identifying what frequency you are on and what may be blocking the path of love for you. I can explore your energy centers through a reading or energy healing session and provide you with healing and tools to help you shift your energy.

Start By Loving Yourself

I tell my clients that the best way to tune into the frequency of love is to start with yourself! That’s right self-love. Speak love to yourself, consume things that are of a loving nature. This includes music, movies, conversations, books, even foods. Taking self-love and self-care to the next level and romancing yourself can help you tune into the energy of love.

2020 is all about aligning with the energy of love. Don’t get it twisted and think that means that everything is rainbows and glitter. There will still be storms, you will still be able to express all of your emotions but you will absolutely move differently when you do so from a place of love.

Are you ready to meet you with a full tank of Love in your system?

Spring into Action

By The Spiritual Love Healer

Spring is here! I’m excited to hear the birds chirping, smell the sweetness of flowers blooming and feel the warmth of the sun on my skin.

Winter is a period of reflection and great time to refocus your energies. This year I found myself being faced with big decisions and letting go of so much. I feel that parts of me died this winter, so that a new me could be reborn.

I spent some time reflecting on who I wanted to be as a woman, mother and business owner. I got really clear on what I wanted for myself and my daughter, so I made some decisions that would align with my desires.

Initially I planned on relocating completely, but instead of a physical move, something within me shifted.

This Spring I decided to release my healing space as my main business location. This gives me more freedom and flexibility to be present with Savvi and also relieves some overhead from my business budget, which is always welcome.

Over the winter I also lost everything on my laptop, so with the freshness of Spring I have been revamping things for my business as well. I will continue to offer energy healing, tarot readings and coaching services, but I also have plans for courses and other products this year.

I have been a full time business owner for just under a year and have learned so much about what I do and do not desire in my business. I am looking forward to all this renewed energy and freshness in my personal and business life.

When it comes to my personal life, being a mother is definitely number 1. After that is nurturing myself and focusing on my own healing. I have plans to improve my financial wellness and to also continue exploring the dating world.

Other things that may be happening include the Spiritual Love and Life Conversations podcast coming back, more webinars, local and virtual healing circles, and more videos, especially readings.

My mission is to Illuminate, Nurture, and Inspire Spiritual Love in the Hearts and Minds of Women Worldwide

And I would like to expand that to children, men, and families. My work is calling me to go deeper and wider, but first I need to go deeper and wider in my own growth and evolution.

By focusing on healing, self-love, spirituality, holistic wellness, and healthy relationships I can help change the lives of people around the world. I am The Spiritual Love Healer and it feels so good to show up in this way and honor my Soul Purpose.

Happy Spring ♥

Spiritual Love is Inclusive

By The Spiritual Love Healer

When I first started doing this work, I knew I wanted to support women through their journey towards healing and wholeness. This work started out of my own quest for healing and I meet so many women with a story similar to mine.

I am now being called to do work on a larger scale to not only work with women but to expand my services to work with children and men. This is so much bigger than I could have ever dreamed!

One of the things that I realized is that men also need healing, and by excluding them I was not standing in my truth and also it would create disparities. My work is about bringing healing and love to you so that you can have success in your relationships.

I have been sharing a bit more of my life as a Mother and being that I use things like crystals and reiki with my own children, I want to share the magic with other parents and their children. Doing simple things like teaching mindfulness to children would be great!

While it is amazing and I am truly excited for this expansion, I also know that it will take time to integrate this evolution of Spiritual Love. The seed has been planted and is beginning to take root.

One of my biggest concerns was what do I do right now, while I am in the process of hosting my Spiritual Love Secrets Masterclass and Forgiveness Challenge??

Deciding to shift things wasn’t easy and it threw me off just a bit. Initially, the forgiveness challenge was being put on hold, but I decided to release it and continue to focus on helping women through Love Rehab private coaching.

You can sign up for the free Journey to Forgiveness Challenge and start on that today. I pushed back the date of the Masterclass, so there is still plenty of time to join.

Nothing is going to change right now, so don’t worry. I will be blogging, making videos, and sharing in my group like normal. I will be creating a private group for men and will be adding content that speaks to their needs as well. Collaborating with other professionals that work with men will allow me to share the magic of Spiritual Love with them.

I am blessed, excited, grateful, and eager to watch this go to the next level. I thought that I would be doing my work on a small scale, just working with women and this divine unfolding will allow me to Dream Bigger.

Stay tuned ♥

Love Is Limitless

By The Spiritual Love Healer

Limitless, Unconditional, Spiritual Love

Love is unlimited, but it is also kept in a small box. When you hear the word ‘Love’ what do you immediately think of?

I’m guessing images of couples kissing and holding hands, weddings, and dating comes to mind. Or either certain types of couples, cheating, heartbreak…the pain is love concepts, but do you know what gets left out of the scope of love…A LOT!

Part of my mission as The Spiritual Love Healer is to shift how you view and think about love. It is NOT just about romantic relationships and the associated heartbreak and drama that has become synonymous with love.

We talk about this in the Spiritual Love Secrets Masterclass. Love is unconditional meaning it is limitless! Limitless Love sounds amazing doesn’t it?!?

Love is deeper than that.

Love is Spiritual. It encompasses you, your family, friendships, and relationships as a whole. The people you interact with are included in the sphere of love.

The Number 1 component of love is YOU! When I ask people about love, rarely do you mention yourself. Instead we talk about the limits and conditions of love instead of the limitless, spiritual nature of love.

You Are Love

Often, people will ask what I do and when I say I’m The Spiritual Love Healer, they assume that I only focus on dating and relationships. I am all about healthy relationships, but that starts with a healthy you. I want everyone to find their Person, but most importantly I desire for you to be in a place to accept and receive love, not only from your person, but from yourself.

If you aren’t right mentally, emotionally, or spiritually it will be hard for you to give and receive love. Truth is a lot of us are hurting and have a fearful view of love. That along with the hurt and challenges we experience during this journey called life, has a big impact on our view of love and can keep you from seeing your worth and so much more.

Heartache is Grief

Heartache is caused by so much more than a bad relationships. Sometimes is an issue around family, lack of self-love, a negative outlook, a life change or even a friendship.

What is heartache? It’s another word for grief and if it’s not released, it can keep you from being your best self and living your best life.

My work as The Spiritual Love Healer is deep! I don’t like being limited to dating and relationships, I help my clients with so much more. But, I do know the one thing we all have in common is that we want to Be Loved. I help you get back to that loving place within yourself, so you can live the life that you desire and experience Spiritual Love.

Life is Love

”Life is love and we are living.” Debra Laws said this in her song ‘Very Special’ (it’s a throwback that I love and was also quoted by Mary J. Blige). This is what I know to be true about Love, it is unconditional, limitless love. It is life. Love is Spiritual.

It’s the very thing that got each of us here. We too are love.

I want to help you discover that again with Spiritual Love Healing and Coaching. It will transform how you view yourself and the world around you. I bring healing through love and help you journey to inner peace, wholeness and love.