Women are often told to choose better when it comes to dating and relationships, but that assumes there is better to choose from.
I don’t know anyone who willingly opts into a toxic or unhealthy relationship. Often people are not stating their true intentions or presenting their true self when meeting someone or engaging in a relationship.
Men will lie and manipulate their way into someone’s heart fully knowing they are not willing or able to be the man she needs. It’s time for men to do better so that women can choose better. For me choosing better meant leaving an abusive relationship that turned my child into a pawn and weaponized motherhood. Choosing better also meant that I would be choosing to parent alone.
For those choices I am still judged and to blame.