July 17

The Four Layers of You: A Holistic Approach to Loving Yourself

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Self Love is a key piece to your success and happiness in love and life. The people and things that you experience in life can chip away at your self-worth, esteem, and confidence.

Have you ever been hurt before? If your answer is yes, then you can benefit from healing with love. I say healing with love because Love is the ultimate healing energy.

Hurts, disappointments, and losses can take bits of love from us. That love can be in the form of assertiveness, wellness, confidence, esteem, self-worth, or values.

Life throws a lot of lemons and sometimes you run out of sugar to make lemonade.

Eventually, you may find yourself unhappy, lacking confidence and love for yourself. One of the lemon orchards life dumped on me was an abusive relationship. It left me scarred, depressed, and honestly, I felt my life was over in so many ways.

It took a lot of love and healing on my part to release that pain and restore myself. Believe me, it wasn’t easy and there were times when I wanted to give up. Every day I am thankful that I didn’t.

Everything that I went through to heal myself and restore self-love are the same things I use now as a coach and healer to help other women heal their hearts and love their lives.

I had to go through healing and rebuilding my life on my own, but you don’t have to. I share what I did to heal and offer coaching and healing services to support you through your own healing.  If you want to change that, you need to take a holistic approach.

Why a Holistic Self Love?

Holistic relates to dealing with something completely, rather than focusing on one part. To bring about the lifestyle changes you desire, this type of approach is required. Focusing on one area of your life won’t bring about transformation. In order to make a change, it needs to incorporate all areas of your life. Let’s discuss the four layers that make you up.

Four Layers of You: Holistic Self Love

Everyone can relate to having these four areas. Different aspects of life may fall under more than one category. Being holistic, they overlap and intertwine. Each of these areas brings their own balance, and together create balance in our lives. When we tie your end goal to each of these areas, it helps to create the picture of the life you want. It also makes it easier to achieve because you have more connections to the outcome or roots.

Mental/Emotional (Mind)

Thoughts and feelings. The mental area focuses on the things we feel and learn. You know that hearing an watching certain things can evoke emotions. When you watch a scary movie, your body reacts to what you see. This area of your life is so important. If you consume mental junk, the things your mind produce will reflect that. Our mind processes things through our senses.

It’s important that your relationships stimulate your mind. You should be filling your mind with positive thoughts and people that will support and uplift you.

Let’s revisit these:

  • Sound
  • Sight
  • Smell
  • Touch
  • Taste
  • * Intuition – your 6th sense

All of these senses stimulate our mind.

You wouldn’t stand around and smell something bad, would you? And I know you aren’t going to continue to eat food that tastes horrible, right?

The same way you avoid those bad things, be mindful of the things you see, hear, and touch (you know the people you let touch you).

Intuition

According to Merriam-Webster, intuition is defined as a “natural ability or power that makes it possible to know something without any proof or evidence; a feeling that guides a person to act a certain way without fully understanding why”.

You don’t have to believe in magic to know that intuition exists. It’s what guides you to take a different way home, and you miraculously avoid a traffic jam. It’s what tells you to make sure you have your wallet before pulling out of the driveway and you discover you didn’t have it. It’s that whisper that says something isn’t quite right about someone.

I learned the hard way to really listen to my intuition.  Now I stay in tune with my inner knowing and use it to help women just like you!

Physical (Body)

The physical doesn’t stop at just your body and looks. The physical includes the people, places, and things that you allow into your life. It’s your tangible life!

Imagine working hard on your spiritual self and hanging around people that don’t respect your new-found faith. That can make things pretty hard for you.

When we think of physical generally only appearances and fitness come to mind. In coaching, with me, together we explore much more. Out outer lives (physical) impact our inner (spiritual & mental) and vice versa.

Having negative people and places in your life impacts your mind and soul. It can even take a toll on your wallet! You want to do things that uplift you and support our healthy lifestyle changes. Your health, fitness, and appearance are also important. I know you want to look and feel good, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Your health, fitness, and appearance are also important. I know you want to look and feel good, there’s nothing wrong with that.

A relationship that is purely physical can leave you drained and unfulfilled. Make sure that your whole self is being loved, honored, and respected.

Misconception

Focusing on your outward appearance, hair, body, and nails will make you happy. You start diets and fitness programs ready to make changes, but don’t follow through because something is lacking. Often times it’s because you’re lacking in love and commitment to yourself. They lack support and determination, both of which can be overcome when you are managing your life.

Many of the don’t follow through because they are lacking something. Many times they lack love and commitment to themselves. They lack support and determination, both of which can be overcome when you are managing your life. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t commit to doing what it takes to change your life.

If you don’t love yourself, you won’t commit to doing what it takes to change your life.

Spiritual (Soul)

We all have our own unique spiritual beliefs. Your soul is at the very core of you. It guides you in life, giving you something to hold on to. I don’t tell people what they should believe, that isn’t my job. Spiritual journeys are woven into the fabric of life. We look for purpose, love, belonging that essentially leads up to ourselves.

Why? Because we are spiritual beings! In my own healing, I went on this vast spiritual journey. I felt like I was possessed! Something had a hold on me and I was terribly unhappy. I felt like a zombie. I was living, but not alive. There was this darkness over me that I could not shake. I started to study different spiritual beliefs. From Agnostic to Scientology. I read texts and attended service and learned so much along the way.

There was this darkness over me that I could not shake. I started to study different spiritual beliefs. From Agnostic to Scientology. I read texts and attended services and learned so much along the way.

This area of your life needs to be cultivated, no matter what your belief. It is an essential part of you. When you find your spiritual place, you will just know. You will be at peace with your beliefs.

Misconception

If you don’t have the same spiritual beliefs as someone you can’t relate to them. It pains me to see religion continue to divide and conquer. Most religions carry the same principles, they are just delivered differently in their tradition and practices. Learning about other religions helps you connect with others and opens your mind. You don’t have to adopt someone else’s faith, but please respect it.

Financial (Money)

Money is a vital tool in life. Our finances have an impact on our quality of life, whether you want to admit it or not. Healthy money habits and financial education is so important. Many of us are taught to be consumers and not investors. We may have issues with money due to our upbringing or other reasons.

Whatever the case maybe in order to live the life you want to live, that requires some type of financial resource. You must invest in yourself, to grow. For many people, that starts by learning how to budget and handle money.

The things, people, and places that we spend our money on, and our thoughts about money matter just as much as the money. If money is being spent on the wrong things, in the wrong place, with or on the wrong people that can have a negative impact on your life.

Misconception

Wanting money or nice things makes you a greedy person. This is so wrong! So many people think that money is the root of all evil and that people with money are like Scrooge. When you start to value money more than yourself or others when you begin to “love” money that becomes problematic. You shouldn’t hate or necessarily love money. You should appreciate it, understand it, and use it for the tool, resource that it is.

When you start to value money more than yourself or others when you begin to “love” money that becomes problematic. You shouldn’t hate or necessarily love money. You should appreciate it, understand it, and use it for the tool, resource that it is.

You should appreciate it, understand it, and use it for the tool, resource that it is.

Lifestyle Changes

To make a lifestyle change it needs to be done across all levels, mental, physical, spiritual, and financial.

You can focus on losing weight, but if you continue to harbor feelings of insecurity or can’t overcome poor eating habits, you won’t succeed.

To make lifestyle changes you need to invest in yourself and do the work! Holistic self love helps you to make lasting changes on all levels so you can be your best self.

Are you ready to do the work, with me as your guide? I want to support your healing and growth through Spiritual Love Coaching and Healing.


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