Why You Need Dating Expectations
Dating can be fun, but let’s be honest… it also sucks.
If you are not clear about your expectations and about what you want, you can easily fall prey to ‘those’ guys. Those guys are the bad guys, the AdultBoys or Baby Man Child.
They are the ones that don’t have any purpose in your life and cause nothing but confusion and harm.
You think he cares but at the end of the day, you realize that is far from the case.
This, my love, is why you need dating expectations.
We’ll talk more about that later.
When I started dating again, I was already over the dating scene. One of the first questions asked is always: why was I single. I loathe this question, but my answer is “because I want a husband”.
I know exactly what I want out of life and in a relationship.
This was my dating expectation, marriage.
I wasn’t trying to have a cuddle buddy, date forever, be confused, or waste my time!
I am comfortable being single. I have the freedom to travel, take up all the space in my bed, and spend time with family and friends. I can focus on what is important to me, and not have someone in my life that brings me down.
I was good with my Goddess Life!
My past relationships were filled with drama, distrust, and a lot of shenanigans that I was not here for any longer.
Rather than be let down, I refused to settle because I deserved everything from a man.
Don’t be Afraid to Let Go
Dating is different when you’re in a better place. Knowing worth and the value I bring into the lives of others and to a relationship, and I wasn’t settling anymore.
The saying people will only do to you what you allow is true!
Stop dating those who don’t meet your expectations. If he doesn’t measure up, let him go.
Do You Date With Purpose?
If you are dating, know what your purpose is in dating.
Do you want to have casual fun or are you looking for a long-term relationship?
Don’t settle for less than what you want. It’s better to be alone than to have someone in your life that doesn’t value you in your entirety.
Within three months, you know if you could spend the rest of your life with someone. You know if you like them and see a future with them.
Set some expectations! Use that to measure your partner. S
top staying in long term situationships expecting, wishing, or hoping for things to change.
If they fall short, reevaluate the relationship and move on if necessary!
What’s Your Dating Strategy?
I approached dating with this mindset: could I love this person forever, the good and the bad?
Look at the quality and substance of your mate.
What are their goals, values, morals, and beliefs? What can you add to each other’s lives?
If the math doesn’t add up, let it go.
Don’t be afraid to move away from a relationship that is not serving you. You are only getting closer to the right guy.
When it comes to dating, think business.
Assets versus liability. Performance management, mergers, and acquisitions.
You need a plan for dating too.
You’re investing your time with someone, so know how and why you are spending it. It sounds crazy but it works. In my circle, I am the go-to girl for relationships, the “Relationship Guru”, if you will.
Dating doesn’t have to be messy nor does it always have to end in marriage (or tragedy), but you can enjoy the process when you have clear expectations. I am blessed to have learned so many lessons in love and relationships that allow me to help others.
If this post helped you, let me know! Please share it with your friends, so they can get their dating life in order.
What was your favorite takeaway?